Question for Brides having destination weddings?
My boyfriend and I have been invited to a destination wedding for friends of ours (the groom has been friends with my bf for 2+ years, I only met them a year ago when we started dating.) They got engaged just before Christmas, the invitations arrived today, and their wedding is in March in the Bahamas.
We would really like to go, but the trip will cost us $3,000 (we’ve priced flights and spoken with the resort already.) We’re not sure if we can afford that right now. We are worried about disappointing the bride and groom if we don’t go. How did you, as Destination Brides, feel about this issue?
The other issue is that right after their engagement, they told us they were considering a short term engagement and a destination wedding. Because they were not expecting anyone else to come (not even their families) the bride told me that her father had offered to pay for another couple to join them on the trip so they wouldn’t be alone. They inquired as to whether or not we could get the time off work to join them, and we said yes. Now, post Christmas with their families, it appears some of them are going to go, including the FOB so we’re assuming that means he’s no longer flying friends of theirs for free since he’ll be flying himself and his wife.
We have no heard another peep out of the bride about this, so we’re assuming the offer is no longer on the table. This is when we priced the trip ourselves and are now stuck on what to do. The issue really is whether or not the bride and groom really want us to be there since they asked the two of us specifically in the beginning. We’re just unclear as to how much our presence there matters to them. If you really wanted someone to come, did you speak with them directly about it and make that clear or were you worried about putting pressure on guests so you didn’t say much?
Any help or insight from destination brides (or anyone who has been in a similar situation) would be great. Thanks!
Thanks to everyone who answered. My bf talked to the groom last night (boys just care so much less about being tactful! haha) and we’ve decided not to go. Platinum Bride, good luck this weekend! I really appreciate your comments and will be taking your advice.